Most of us enter university with an incomplete understanding of sex, whether it be from bits and pieces of school lessons that skipped over the awkward parts or even those half-answered questions that we were too embarrassed to ask but privately consulted the internet about. Somewhere along the road, “the birds and the bees” and the advice from friends who are still figuring things out were supposed to prepare us for adulthood. But to be honest, it rarely worked. With university life comes freedom, curiosity, connections, and, at times, confusion. It is a time for both curiosity and vulnerability. This is the point at which sexual health transitions from a theoretical to a practical concern. Instead of fear or guilt, students need honest information, compassion, and useful guidance delivered openly and without judgement.
Think of this as a check-in from someone who wants to keep you safe, informed, and confident about your body.
First and foremost, sexual health is synonymous with overall health. Getting tested, asking questions, and protecting yourself are not indicators of recklessness: they indicate that you value your body and your future. In university, relationships and experiences change rapidly. Many students’ adventures include meeting new people, navigating long-distance relationships, and experimenting. That is precisely why making informed decisions is more important now than ever.
Now, let us debunk a few myths that still float around among students.
Myth One: “I will know if something is wrong.”
This is mostly false. Many sexually transmitted infections (STIs) have no symptoms at all. You can feel fine and still have an infection. Regular testing is the only way for you to be certain about your health status. Student Health Services (SHS) on Hatfield campus provides screening that is accessible to all students.
Myth Two: “Testing is embarrassing.”
No, it is not. Health-care providers do this every day. If you go to SHS, they treat students with professionalism and care while upholding confidentiality. There is no judgement, only support.
Myth Three: “Protection ruins the moment.”
Protection is and can be a part of the moment. Condoms and other forms of protection provide you with safety while promoting mutual respect, care, and trust. It is important that you practise safe sex. A partner who makes you question the use of protection is not someone who values your safety or your health.
According to Community Access Network, these are some of the practical strategies you can implement into your lives:
- Get tested regularly.
Especially when starting a new relationship, this is extremely important for you and your partner. Make it a normal part of adulthood, just like getting a standard checkup.
- Carry protection always.
This is not a statement about your intentions: it is rather an act of preparation. Condoms are widely available and easily accessible.
- Have the conversation.
It may be uncomfortable at first, but discussing testing, usage of protection, and boundaries fosters trust.
- Know your options.
Aside from condoms, there are other preventative measures and contraceptive options. SHS can help you determine what is best for your body and your health through a consultation. Alternatively, you can visit your healthcare practitioner.
The shame and the stigma thrive in silence. Struggling with your sexual health does not mean you have failed. It simply means you are human. Whether it is a scare, a diagnosis, or simply uncertainty, you are not alone. You do not have to carry this quietly. Being informed about your sexual health does not imply fear. It is about freedom – freedom to make informed choices, but more importantly, freedom to experience relationships in a safe and responsible manner.
So, if no one has said it clearly yet, let this be your reminder: take care of yourself, ask for help when you need it, and do not be afraid to use the resources available to you. Your body is worth looking after. Always.
Visual: Mila Jordaan
